So many times in life we all sit around and wonder why the grass is always greener in someone elses yard..
We are always looking to point blame on anything for our shortcomings in life… I am too old, too slow, too fat, I am not good enough.. True all of these things can add a degree of complexity to any challenge we are attempting to face in life. I have found myself playing the same blame game over the years. It can be very limiting if you allow this mindset rule your life, especially if its the easy road to take..
I wonder how many times in life we have said this very statement to ourselves when things just did not go the way we intended? I suspect way too often!
“No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others.”
― Shannon L. Alder
Faced with any adversity you have 2 choices:
- You will figure out a way to overcome this challenge, and/or work with the challenge to not allow it to stop you.
- The other choice is to allow this adversity to own you and in essence set you back…
For a long time I allowed myself to choose the 2nd option. I allowed my weight to own my life and limit my ability to fully realize my fullest potentials. My weight problem did not take place over night… For the first few lbs I just pretended it was not happening, scales were wrong, etc… My inability to address the issues earlier in life left me a few years later, 100-200 lbs heavier then I have ever been, faced with my own self-inflicted health issues… It left me with thinking, where do I go now???
I am sitting in the docs office on a Friday afternoon, getting my semi lecture and a whole list of limitations and risk spewed to me by my doctor. All I can think of then was what the heck am I going to do, no soda, no bread, no pizza. Pricking my finger all the time, medications more testing and permanently labeled as a diabetic???
After getting home and digesting the reality of my situation. I was embarrassed, angry with myself and frustrated with the long road I had ahead of me to get back my health back in track… Why did I allow myself to get to this point… One would think, that my scare with high blood pressure 2 years earlier would of been a good of reason to not of allowed myself to become lazy and complacent with short-lived success and put myself in this place now.
The key I think was my mindset that I took.. I was already figuring out how to start overcoming this issue. I could easily sat around and moped and say why me, but that gets me no where.. Maybe I could of been jaded and turned to even more of a self destructive behavior..
Instead I owned the issue, realizing that I put myself in this situation and I started setting a plan of action in motion. I was not going to allow the diagnosis to own my life. True I needed to ensure that I was addressing any concerns to make sure I stay healthy and out of danger, but I was not going to allow my life to stop because of this new found diagnosis. I needed to find new ways to enjoy my life while allowing myself to get healthy and get fit. I think if we apply this concept to any challenge we face in life, own the issue and not allow us to hold us back we can always rise above our limitations…
I recently took the Stephen Covey course, 7 habits of highly effective people… Most of the lessons in the course are very anecdotal but they have real life applications, especially in the business world. Even the the intended audience for this course is business, I really think we could apply these concepts to anything in life. I really like habits 1 and 2 the best. We all make choices and decisions every day that will dictate our life.. Once we figure that out and we are seeking change, you need to focus on where you want go long term, not just to get by for today.
Stephen R Covey…
What are the 7 Habits?
- Be Proactive. Life doesn’t just happen, whether intentionally or not,the decisions we make shape the life we live.
- Begin With the End in Mind. Do you know what you want to be/do? Imagine what it would be like. Make a conscious effort to visualise what you want to be and what you want to do in life.
- Put First Things First. Build balance into what you do. Ensure that what you want is worked out in practice. That you do the things worth most to you first.
- Think Win-Win. Consistently seek mutual benefit in what you do. Cultivate an abundance mentality – there is more for everyone.
- Seek First to Understand. Communication is the most important skill in life. Seek to understand another person’s view first, in order to best put your view forward. To communicate well you must listen first.
- Synergize. Bring together ideas, other people and their views. Do this properly and the whole is greater than the sum of the parts.
- Sharpen the Saw. Take time out to ensure you are refreshed, renewed and equipped to contribute and live life to the full.
So to conclude, are you going to allow limitations to own your life or are you going to own them, throw your excuses out the window and live your life? True you life may not be like everyone else, but it will be your own life if you take control of your life and live it to the extreme…